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Saturday, June 16, 2012

Loss

Russ woke me early this morning to tell me that my nephew had called.  He and his dad had found my sister passed out on the floor and not breathing.  Paramedics were called and they shocked her and intubated her for transport to the hospital.  They were not able to save her and so at about 8 a.m. this morning, my dear sister, Sharon, went home to be with Jesus.  I cannot think of what else to do so I will write about her.  Writing always helps me focus and clear my mind.

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I cannot begin to tell you how much this hurts.  I have written about my older sister, Laila, the one we always do crazy stuff with.  Sharon was the sister just older than me.  She  didn’t like to travel, although we used to have sister’s days at the coast when we were all younger.  Sharon was the sane one in the family and tried (unsuccessfully) to keep Laila and me in line.

Sharon has not been well for many years but her main problem was intense unremitting pain.  She had had several unsuccessful back surgeries and the pain just wouldn’t quit.  But she never gave up.  She did as much as she could and still took care of her house, her husband, and the one son who still lives at home.  She was at church as often as she was able.  She went to grandkids performances and graduations.  She NEVER GAVE UP.
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We used to have a “Sister’s Day” once a week where the three sisters would get together and just hang out.  It used to be an all day thing, then as Sharon became more disabled we would just get together for lunch once a week.  Lately those lunches were few and far between.  Yet last Monday, I asked both sisters to please come to lunch at my house before Laila left on her trip to Reno.  We had a great sister’s lunch just sitting in my back yard and talking about life.  I am so glad we had this time.

Thursday I found out she was sick.  I called her husband and he said she had been vomiting for a couple of days but refused to see the doctor.  He did say the next day that she was keeping down some Gatorade and seemed to be doing better.  Then this morning, it was all over.  I don’t really know what happened yet, and that is hard. 
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But this I DO know, Sharon loved the Lord and I know she is in heaven safe in the arms of Jesus.  We three sisters were as close as any sisters I have ever known.  We all live within a mile of one another.  We have had our little squabbles from time to time but NOTHING ever came between us and our deep love for one another.  To know that Sharon is gone would be unbearable without the assurance that we will meet again. 

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Take nothing for granted and do not pass up a chance to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.  Some years back I made a video for my sisters.  I share it here as my tribute to Sharon.  She sure got a kick out of it.  I love you Sharon and will miss you all the days of my life.

55 comments:

  1. Donna, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister Sharon. I can't even imagine how shocked you must feel right now.

    I'm sure glad you were able to have lunch with your sisters just last Monday.

    Please take care of yourself during the next week as it is bound to be very trying.

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  2. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. That was a wonderful tribute to your sister Sharon. It is very hard to take the loss of a close family member, but at least we know they are in a much better place.

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  3. So glad to read about last Monday! I know you will cherish those last hours together forever!

    Take care and God bless!

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  4. Oh how lovely you spent time recently with your dear sister Sharon. In the days to come be comforted with the precious memories of joys you shared with her.

    Bless you and your entire family in these difficult days.

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  5. Donna, I'm truly sorry to hear about ur sister, I know it was quite a shock. So very glad that y'all had the lunch together. What a wonderful tribute this is to her. I wish there was something I could say to take the pain away but just rejoice in the fact that she is not in pain anymore and the knowledge that you will see her again. I pray that Heavenly Father will hold you close as you go about the things that must be done. God bless you and ur's.

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  6. Oh, so very sorry for your loss, Take Care & God Bless.

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  7. Donna, my sincere condolences to you and Russ on your loss of your loved one. I hope the memories of the happier times portrayed in the video will sustain you during these difficult times.

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  8. Donna, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Sisters are special people in our lives. I'm very glad you have that adorable video to look back on, and that she saw it as well. And, lunch was meant to be. Remember, she's no longer in pain, but is at peace.

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  9. My deepest heartfelt condolences to you and all of your family. What a wonderful tribute that video is.

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  10. Donna, My Donna & I are so shocked to hear of the loss of your Sister Sharon,It is not easy to lose a sibling,I know and have never got over the loss of my younger brother. You were fortunate to have your sisters day last week with no way of knowing this would happen.Please accept our prayers, we will pray that the Lord makes the coming days easier on you and Russ. Your friends, Sam & Donna....

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  11. Donna - So sorry for your loss, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers!

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  12. Donna, our sympathies are with you during this difficult time. May your memories of all the good times with Sharon give you peace and comfort.

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  13. Donna, how fortunate you three sisters were to be living so close together, and to have so much time together. I'm so happy you had your "sisters lunch" on Monday. Obviously you had a lot of fun over the years. I hope you'll think of those times when you're sad.

    I send good wishes for you and your family. Take good care of yourself and Russ. These are the times when our faith carries us through.

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  14. Donna, Mike and I extend our sincere condolences to you and your family! We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. I am so glad you all had that special time last week. What a blessing! Your video tribute was wonderful!! Sending our love your way!

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  15. Please add our heartfelt condolences for your loss. So gla you had a special time last week. Sometimes we think we all have forever.

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  16. Donna we are so sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. You and your family will be remembered in our prayers. Lolita and I are glad that the three of you had the chance to spend some special time together last week.

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  17. Thinking of you Donna..

    Kelly

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  18. Joe and I want to tell you how very sorry we are to hear of your sister Sharon's sudden death. You must feel numb. I wish we were closer so we could give you hugs. You will be in our prayers as you walk through this hard time.
    Our love to you,
    Betty and Joe

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  19. Oh, Donna, so sad to hear about your sister. You are in our thoughts.

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  20. I'm so sorry for your loss, Donna. Sending good thoughts your way.

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  21. I'm so sad for you and Laila, and the rest of Sharon's family. Very, very sad.

    Hugs to you all,
    Roxanne & Annie

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  22. I am sending prayers and warm fuzzies your way.

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  23. I am so sorry to learn of your sister's passing. What a close-knit and loving family you have... how good to have that during this time of loss. My heart just goes out to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  24. Donna, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister's passing. Losing a loved one is never easy. When it happens suddenly, without warning, it's even more difficult to come to grips with it. Focusing on the good memories will help you through this difficult time. And you have Russ to lean on when the going gets really tough. Our thoughts are with you.

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  25. Donna, my heart aches for you but rejoices for your sister. It's so wonderful to know that she is no longer in any pain and is wrapped in the loving arms of our Savior. My prayer is that the Lord will also wrap His arms around you and give you comfort and peace. You have wonderful memories and you will always miss her. But knowing that you will see her again makes it so much easier. Hugs and love to you and your family.

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  26. Donna...so very sorry about your sister, Sharon..just know that you are surrounded with love from 'your blogging' family too..one big cyber ((hug)) for you...take care of each other and cherish the many memories.

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  27. Our Deepest Condolences for the loss of your Sister Sharon. As you have said in the past there is always something that wanted to do or say that never happen. Now it will have to wait until you meet again.

    It's about time.

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  28. My heart goes out to you. I, too, had two sisters and lost one. It's really hard and only time can help heal it, and you miss them no matter what. Take good care of yourself through this hard time.

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  29. Donna -
    You have an amazing family and I'm sure you will all lean on each other. I am so sorry for your loss. Sharon is in a place where grief and pain are non-existent. No tears, only glory.

    Maureen

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  30. Oh my dear friend. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. My heart hurts for you and your family. We send our love and our deepest sympathy to you and the family.

    Your post is a wonderful tribute to your sister. What lovely lady she must have been. The video is wonderful.

    We will keep you and the family in our prayers for comfort and peace. Love to you all.

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  31. Donna, so so sorry to hear of the passing of your sister. Harry and I extend our sincerest sympathies to you and your family.

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  32. Donna, my heart aches for you as I went through many of the same feelings when my cousin Karen passed three years ago. Please know I am keeping you in my heart, thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time.

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  33. I am so sorry. What a shock to wake up to.

    You will miss your sister very much. It's just as well you all know she is safe with Jesus.

    My deep sympathy and Blessings.

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  34. Thank you all so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with me. It really has been a blessing and a comfort.

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  35. So very sorry for the lose of your dear sister. Remember all the good time and wonderful experiences you shared. Hugs to you all.

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  36. Donna, my heart is heavy at reading your post today. Life certainly has a way of keeping us humble. Thankfully you have the memories of a lifetime to keep close to your heart. God Bless you! Your tribute is wonderfully done.

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  37. Donna, sorry to hear about your Sister. When I saw your title I thought Rusty had gone. I have never had a real Sister or Brother so can only imagine the grief you must have in your heart. It was nice you could all spend the time together that you did. Life certainly does have it's share of sudden heart wrenching twists in it. All the best......AL.

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  38. So very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear sister, Donna! May God Bless you and calm you in this difficult time. Judy & John Hollinger

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  39. So sorry for your loss Donna - and Russ and all of your family. Nice tribute and gentle reminder for all of us to tell our loved ones that we do love them.

    We hope you find comfort and peace knowing that she is no longer in pain.

    Sharon and Ron

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  40. So very sorry about your sister. Your blog was very nice. Your memories are in your heart and she will always be there with you.

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  41. So sorry to hear about the death of your sister Sharon. It was wonderful that the the three of you spent some time together last week.

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  42. We are saddened to hear of the sudden death of your sister. That was a beautiful tribute to her in your blog today. God bless you and comfort you in your loss.

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  43. There is nothing we can say that hasn't been said, but let us add our condolences on the loss of your beloved sister. Your post, especially the delightful video was a wonderful tribute to Sharon, but also to Laila and yourself!

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  44. I was so sorry to hear about the passing of your beloved sister! Take comfort in the fact that you three girls had a very strong and loving relationship that stood the test of time!! I'm so glad that you made this video to share with your sisters because the love shines through! You can see it in every frame!! Thank you for sharing it with us! Stay strong..lean on Russ and your family!
    Our thoughts are with you.
    Big hug!
    Paulette

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  45. Please accept our condolences on the loss of your sister. What a wonderful relationship you had with her! Your movie tribute was priceless and I'm sure she's looking down on you, finally pain-free, and smiling.

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  46. We were so sorry to learn about the loss of your sister. It is always hard to lose a loved one, especially when it is unexpected. You will be in our prayers.

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  47. So very sorry to hear of your sister's passing. I can only imagine your grief.

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  48. I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved sister. Prayers to you and the family.

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  49. Donna, we add our condolences to those above. While the sorrow and grief you feel is overwhelming now, the joy in knowing you WILL see Sharon again will become stronger than the grief and soon your mourning will turn into dancing, just as Scripture promises. I pray that you feel God's arms wrapped tightly around you, holding you as you grieve. Because He loves you.

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  50. Well this is very sad news. I lost a sister back in '82, and I still miss her sometimes.
    Very sorry for your loss.
    My condolences.

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  51. Words cannot express how sad I am for you. You wrote a lovely summary of your sisters life and I know she's watching over you now.
    Nina

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  52. So sorry for your loss. It is good that you had that last lunch together at your house.

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  53. Donna, I just got home to a half way decent internet connection and wanted to pass along our condolences for you loss. I know she is with you and will be for eternity. God Bless

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  54. Donna, we are so very sorry to hear of your sister's passing..our thoughts, hearts and prayers are with you....loved the video! Thanks for sharing...god bless you all!

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  55. I'm so sorry to hear of your sister's passing. I just can't even imagine what you are going through. That video is the most adorable tribute. Whenever my daughters would fight, I would sing that song. Stopped them cold.

    Once again, so sorry for your loss.

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